Alright, as we all know Valentines Day is upon us! With that said, I’m sure I invoked one of three emotions in you: excitement, dread, or you are pointedly ignoring me. No matter what reaction you have to the impending holiday I want you to keep one thing in mind: Love yourself first. Let repeat that:
LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.
No matter what your plans are on Valentines day, make sure to give yourself some love, too. I don’t see Valentine’s day with the gray tinted lenses so many people do – and I never have. I see it as a day of love. Love for yourself, and love for others. And if you don’t have anyone to love? Well, more love for you! So many people get wrapped up in the commercial side of the holiday, that they forget about what’s behind it all, and that is love.
I’m a pretty big advocate of loving yourself and doing things for you, first. There are so many ways to do this, from words of affirmation to pampering yourself to treating yourself. It’s super important to make sure that you’re making time for you on a regular basis. If you need some help coming up with ideas on how you can do this, I’ve got you covered!
Take a nap.
I know what you’re thinking:
I have a million things to do and I’m already behind and I can’t afford to lose twenty minutes and…
Shh. It’s OK. A small nap isn’t going to hurt you. Listen to your body, if you’re tired, sleep. You will wake up feeling happier, and chances are that you’ll be more productive, too. A lot of people don’t realize that just taking care of yourself is a fantastic way to show yourself love.
Perhaps the most cliche on the list, this is one I really believe in. Put on a face mask, paint your nails, and run a bubble bath. Pampering yourself goes beyond the usual routine of self care most people go through, and it makes all the difference.
Have a ‘you’ night.
Girls nights are cool and all, but sometimes it’s nice to be alone. Personally, I get burnt out pretty easily when it comes to socializing, but I also hate turning down plans. Feel free to turn your friends down every now and then, pop in a movie, eat junk food, and just be.
Write in a journal.
This is something I’ve recently started doing, and it has made a fantastic difference in my attitude. But it’s not just any journal, it’s a positivity journal. I am only allowed to write good things in there. I have pages for motivational quotes, for the happy news of the day, and so much more. Even if some of the things I write down would be considered silly by others, that’s not what matters. They make me feel good and I can look at it and smile.
Call your parents.
Whenever I call my parents I am left feeling happy and loved. Maybe this one is cheating because it’s not you loving yourself, but I promise that once you get off the phone with your two biggest fans, your bound to feel happy and loved.
My boyfriend pointed out to me that I apologize entirely too often and when it’s unnecessary, too. This is something I am working on, because when you apologize for something that you’re not actually sorry for or that you really did mean, you aren’t doing yourself any favors. Stand by your words, but at the same time only say the words you truly mean.
I am no artist, but I am constantly creating. Making something (objectively) beautiful is really fulfilling, and it really is amazing to see what you are capable of. Choose an art and start creating: you can paint, write, dance, sing. Just choose something that will make you feel creative and incredible, because you are.
What have you done lately to love yourself? What could you do to show yourself more love? Let me know in the comments, I would love to discuss!