Ladies: Practice Kindness.

I try not to be bothered by much, and for the most part I’m not. But something that is a huge pet-peeve of mine is the ways girls treat girls.

Way too many girls are catty and mean and just not nice to other girls. If we are going to be mean we should at least focus that on stinky ‘ol boys, right? But lets just actually be nice to everyone. Good karma all around that way!

With that said, here are the top ways I see girls bringing down other girls. It’s easy to fall into the cycle, and if you see yourself doing it, try and make the efforts to stop! No one said it better than Ms. Norbury:

“You all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it ok for guys to call you sluts and whores.”

Not only does it make guys think that’s alright, but it’s just not nice!

We all know girls can be mean to other girls, but we are also mean to ourselves, and we shouldn’t be. If I had a dollar for every time I heard one of my friends put themselves down for something superficial, I sure as anything wouldn’t be looking for a job right now!

I want every one of you reading this to do everything in your power to eliminate these negative phrases from your vocabulary, and encourage your friends to do the same!

“Leggings aren’t pants.”

The only people I’m ever going to let dictate what I walk out of the house in are Stacy, Clinton, and my mom. I am tired of girls judging each other for wearing comfortable bottoms. If a girl wants to wear leggings, fine. If she wants to wear jeans, fine. As a matter of fact, if she wants to rock the tutu she wore to her ballet recital in the fourth grade, well that’s fine too. Wear what you are comfortable with and don’t put up with anyone telling you anything other than the fact that you are an adorable, perfect human being no matter what you wear.

Sorry, I’m not wearing makeup.”

Why do girls always apologize when they are caught in public without makeup? I don’t get it. Makeup is great, it’s fun, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wearing it, but on the flip side of that, there is nothing wrong with not wearing it. We have been conditioned to think we are only beautiful when we are behind a mask of foundation, blush, mascara, and lipstick. Screw that. You are beautiful with your greasy hair and acne cream before bed and if anyone tells you otherwise, karate chop their throat.

“I don’t want to get fat.”

I have good news for girls everywhere. One box of thin mints won’t make you fat. It’s fun to treat yourself. I am all for living a healthy lifestyle and nourishing my body with healthy goodies, but the line is drawn when it comes to depriving myself of things that I want to eat. I feel better when I have baked chicken and a salad for dinner, but that will never stop me from skipping dinner and heading straight to dessert if that’s what I want. Treat your body well and fill it with healthy meals, but it’s fine to eat the “fattening” foods too every now and then. And who cares if you get “fat,” that means there’s just a little extra to love!

“She’s a…”

Don’t you dare finish that sentence with: Slut, whore, bitch, etc… Because she’s not. She is a girl just like you who maybe lives her life differently than you do and that’s fine. There is no reason to shame her just because she makes different choices than you would make, or because you and her don’t get along. You can think she is one thing, but I promise you there are plenty of people who think she is beautiful, kind, lovely, funny, and the list goes on. Just like there are plenty of people who think the same about you. It is awful to limit a person to one label when we are all so much more than than what one person perceives us to be.

“He’d never go for me because…”

Because he’s a loser. That is the only acceptable way to finish that sentence. If he’s not into you that’s his own problem and don’t even begin to blame yourself because if he doesn’t like you in all of your magnificent glory, then that is his loss! Focus on making sure you love yourself before you start fretting about what some silly ol’ boy is thinking about you. You are great, and once you know that, you won’t be able to step outside the house without boys chasing you down.


Ladies, treat others and yourself with compassion, love, and respect. Don't waste your time tearing each other down when you could be building each other up.